I was invited to my sister's wedding as her personal photographer. I recorded from the beginning when she made up till the end of the wedding ceremony. It was my first time to attend a wedding ceremony, at which I learnt nowadays what a typical Chinese wedding is like and how young people combine the western style and Chinese tradition in their wedding.
A wedding hall is being decorated right now. In the next few hours, this hall is going to witness a happy couple united to be husband and wife.
"How do I look?" the bride is turning to me and asking. A dresser is making up for her and just finished with her eyebrows. This is her first time to put such heavy powder on the face, let alone the eyelashes extension and anything else to be added. "It's my big day and I have to look best." She said.
In a separate room, the groom is getting changed with no one around. Facing the camera, he shows no excitement but a serious face.
When asked, He told me he felt a bit nervous and unrealistic. "In a second I cannot believe this is going to be true. I mean, I have been waiting for this moment for such long time." Five years relationship, from campus love to a real proposal, ups and downs happened though, he has already regarded her as his lifelong beloved.
And in bride's heart, the groom is also the one she has imagined for thousands of times, whom she would love to wear the princess-like wedding shoes for .
With the help the dresser, the bride is putting on her wedding gown. "I have been dreaming of wearing a pure white wedding gown since I was little. And now my dream comes true." For a better look, the bride has been on a diet for a month in order to "squeeze into this slim gown."said herself.
Her effort paid off. When she is ready, a princess-like girl appears in front of us. However, her future husband is yet allowed to see his beautiful bride. According to Chinese wedding tradition, the groom cannot enter the bride room unless answering right to the questions brought by the bride's friends. And the bride can do nothing but wait.
"Don't let him in!" It looks chaotic but funny in the bride's room. Her friends are holding against the door in case that the groom would thrust into the room. They are posing questions to groom until they get satisfying answers. Before then, the groom is not allowed to come in. It is a test for groom's wisdom, perseverance and the love for his bride..
20 minutes "battle" finally concluded with the groom winning the permission to see his bride. In front of everyone, the groom needs to help the bride wear the wedding shoes, which is also part of Chinese tradition. This means from now on he will be the bride's company on the way to the future.
The groom is bridal-carrying his gorgeous bride , heading for the ceremony hall.This is another Chinese tradition that the groom should carry the bride on the way to the ceremony hall, which indicates that the support from the husband will always be there.
Escorted by her father, the bride is proceeding into the hall, where their families and friends gathered already. The wedding is not only about a commitment to the couple each other, but also a testimony of their love to each one's family.
"I promise I will love you throughout my life regardless the time, wealth, illness. Nothing but death that only can depart us..." Much like the western wedding, the couple read their written vows to each other . My sister told me that she had wrote more than ten versions for the draft. However she eventually used the first one she came up with.
"Mum, have a tea please" the groom is handing the tea to the bride's mum. In China, a marriage involves not only two people, but also two families. The marriage will bond two families ever since into a big family. Therefore from this day onwards, the couple should call their parents-in-law as "Dad" and "Mum" and take care of them as the same as they do to their birth parents.
After the ceremony, the bride changed the gown to the traditional Chinese dress, Qipao, together with the groom, giving their thanks to every table of guests. Differing than weddings of Western culture, the end of the ceremony in China doesn't mean the end of wedding. The wedding banquet begins when the ceremony finishes.
Five years ago, she met him on the campus. Five years later, he married her here. The wedding ended. But their new life settles out.